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We are raising you to become an independent adult, right now you are child who just happens to have Down syndrome. We believe you will be able to do things and it is up to us to help you learn how. It would be so much easier if we did things for you instead of you trying to do them for yourself:
- Instead of making you hold our hand and walk across the parking lot it would be easier just to pick you up and carry you to our car.
- Instead of having you help with brushing your teeth it would be easier if we just did it for you, we would also save on toothbrushes.
- Instead of making you work on taking off/ on your coat at school/daycare/home it would go so much faster if we did it all for you.
- Instead of coaxing you to use your words and signs to communicate to say hi, bye, mama, and dada it would be so much easier let you just use your “aah” and wave for everything we wouldn’t have to wait for you to work on forming those words
- Instead of giving you time to choose your cereal in the morning our routine would be faster if we just picked for you.
- Instead of sitting down with you and helping you learn how to dress yourself, it would be so much easier if we just dressed as if you were a baby and not a little boy.
- Instead of trying to practice going to the bathroom on the potty, it would be so much easier to just change your diaper.
- Instead of picking up after yourself, it would be so much easier and faster if we picked up your messes.
Yes all of these things would right now be easier and go faster and not make our day seem like more work. But how will you learn to care for yourself, be safe when walking, be able to communicate with your friends? We do all of these things and spend this time and effort now so you can grow up to be a successful adult. We will continue do help you to achieve all you can.
Yes you are only 3 years old now but soon you will be 5, then 10, then 16, then 21…..it will be so much harder for us to do these things for you if you aren’t taught how to do them.
Yes you have Down Syndrome, but that in no way interferes with our need to teach you how to do these daily skills, just like we taught your brother. These things might take longer to learn, more repetition, more steps broken down until you can do them by yourself. I have no doubt that you will be able to do them by yourself.
Check out other stories of our journey of raising a little fella with down syndrome by following the fun happy nooks link in the right side bar under down syndrome!